Grey Gardens:A Fascinating Story of Hoarding & Squalor

Hello Collectors! While writing my blog last month on Diogenes Syndrome I came across the story of  the Grey Gardens featuring "Big Edie" and "Little Edie" Beale.
It's a true story about high-society castaways keeping house in a dilapidated East Hampton mansion.

Of course, I could not wait to learn more about them!
Why am I interested personally? I clean up homes like this for a living!

I began "trolling" the internet.  I read all sorts of blogs, I ordered the documentary about the Beale's "Grey Gardens" and watched it, ordered the HBO movie "Grey Gardens", and watched it as well. I also have some video posts below of the musical.
Like you Collectors, I like to do my research.  

I am now a fan of all things Grey Garden. It's a fascinating story about two women who lived together at Grey Gardens for decades with limited funds in increasing squalor and isolation. If you want to learn more about Grey Gardens read below.

Edith Ewing Bouvier Beale (1895–1977), known as "Big Edie", and her daughter Edith Bouvier

Do you expect Jackie to come?
“I told her not to come here. I thought she’d upset my act.” - Little Eddie

Beale (1917–2002), known as "Little Edie", were the aunt and the first cousin, respectively, of former U.S. First Lady Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis.


The house was designed in 1897 by Joseph Greenleaf Thorpe and purchased in 1923 by "Big Edie" and her husband Phelan Beale. After Phelan left his wife, "Big Edie" and "Little Edie" lived there for more than 50 years.

The house was called Grey Gardens because of the color of the dunes, the cement garden walls, and the sea mist. Throughout the fall of 1971 and into 1972, their house was infested by fleas, inhabited by numerous cats and raccoons, deprived of running water, and filled with garbage and decay. The Beale's were exposed as the result of an article in the National Enquirer and a cover story in New York Magazine   after a series of inspections (which the Beales called "raids") by the Suffolk County Health Department. With the Beale women facing eviction and the razing of their house, in the summer of 1972 Jacqueline Onassis and her sister Lee Radziwill provided the necessary funds to stabilize and repair the dilapidated house so that it would meet village codes.

“In all my life, including years reporting about slums from Washington to Casablanca, I have never seen a house in such dreadful condition: attics full of raccoons and their droppings, toilets stopped up, a kitchen stove that had fallen into the cellar, a living room with literally only half a floor, grounds so matted with devil’s walking sticks and other thorns they were impenetrable, a large walled garden which was so overgrown it could not even be seen. Over everything hung the knee-buckling smell of cats and cat excrement. Whole rooms had been abandoned when they filled-up with garbage, as the Beales moved to the next room…’Big Edie’ had passed away, and ‘Little Edie’ was forced to sell, but willing to sell to someone who would not tear the eyesore down.” – Ben Bradlee

Grey Gardens, The Documentary

Albert and David Maysles became interested in their story and received permission to film a documentary about the women, which was released in 1976 to wide critical acclaim. Their direct cinema technique left the women to tell their own stories. (Courtesy of http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Grey_Gardens)

Entertainment Weekly magazine ranks Grey Gardens as the #33 top cult film of all time.

Grey Gardens the Musical
Grey Gardens is a musical with book by Doug Wright, music by Scott Frankel, and lyrics by Michael Korie, based on the 1975 documentary of the same title about the lives of Edith Ewing Bouvier Beale ("Big Edie") and her daughter Edith Bouvier Beale ("Little Edie") by Albert and David Maysles.

Set at Grey Gardens, the Bouviers' mansion in East Hampton, New York, the musical tracks the progression of the two women's lives from their original status as rich and socially polished aristocrats to their eventual largely isolated existence in a home overrun by cats and cited for repeated health code violations. However, its more central purpose is to untangle the complicated dynamics of their dysfunctional mother/daughter relationship. (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Grey_Gardens_%28musical%29)

Grey Gardens, The Movie (2009)
It's hard to imagine a feature film that could improve upon the classic 1975 Hamptons-gothic documentary Grey Gardens, co-directed by Albert and David Maysles. Yet this Grey Gardens, directed by Michael Sucsy for HBO Films, captures not only the pathos and peculiarity of Edith Beale, mère et fille--aristocrats who were aunt and cousin to former first lady Jacqueline Bouvier Kennedy--but it provides something deeper and richer: the background story of the glamorous Beale
ladies, and a glimpse at how they slid from gay 1930s high society to sharing rotting living quarters with litters of cats and raccoons.

Photo Courtesy of HBO

Drew Barrymore, the Grey Gardens standout, rises to the particular challenge of playing "Little Edie" Beale, whose accent, carriage, and mannerisms have developed their own camp following over the years. Barrymore's performance is a revelation: she captures the weirdness of Edie, but she knows what the documentary fans know--the reality of what Edie once had been, and what she was becoming. Barrymore's performance is delicate and strong, with a hint of sadness underneath the fading ingénue's brave face. www.amazon.com)
Jessica Lange plays "Big Edie," the mother who made more concrete choices to wall herself off from the outside world. Lange is excellent, though Big Edie is a less nuanced character than her daughter, and she seems more content with her lot, perched in her teeming twin bed surrounded by mounds of cats and trash. (courtesy of Amazon.com)

This documentary/movie/musical is great for Collectors and non-collectors to watch. It might make you feel like you are not the only one. It might motivate you. It might make you more understanding if you are a non-collector.

Before I go, I will leave you with some fun quotes from the Beale's...

“One is a lone woman who hasn’t got much money and she’s fighting to get the same thing she always wanted – recognition as a dancer, singer, and entertaining artist. Here, I’m mother’s little helper, cleaning up after the cats.” – Little Edie

"I love the smell [of Grey Gardens]. I thrive on it. It makes me feel good.” – Big Edie

“Oh, Mother thinks its artistic this way, like a Frank Lloyd Wright house. Don’t you love the overgrown Louisiana Bayou look.” – Little Edie

“Two women can’t live together for twenty years without some jealousy. Not that my voice is better than Mother’s, but she can’t dance.” - Little Edie

"But you see in dealing with me, the relatives didn't know that they were dealing with a staunch character and I tell you if there's anything worse than dealing with a staunch woman... S-T-A-U-N-C-H. There's nothing worse, I'm telling you. They don't weaken, no matter what." - Little Edie

I could not have made this all possible without the amazing information I found on Grey Gardens Online! This good looking couple dedicates an entire site to the Beale's! Check them out to find out what ever happened to the home, and who is living there now. 

Also, a special thank you to the KOMMA HEM website for such incredible photos and all the great research you have online about the Beale's.

Rachel Seavey
Professional Organizer & Extreme Cleaner

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4.5 Natural Remedies To Keep Pests Out of Your Hoarded Home

Hello my Hoarding Disorder Collectors out there! I absolutely love working with you all. However, I don't like working with all the unwanted bugs and critters in your home. One problem I come across a lot are pest infestations. I have personally dealt with bed bugs, roaches, fruit flies, black widows, mice, rats and raccoons. I come home with random bites and swollen marks all the time.

And - I know you don't like waking up with a mouthful of fruit flies. I know you know something is scratching every night in the other room.  Let's talk about some easy, inexpensive solutions to help keep those critters out.

Disclaimer: We are not exterminators, we suggest that you please seek professional pest control help first.  Unfortunately (we hear this a lot ) pest companies will not come out and help you if there are not pathways, or clear access in your home. If you find yourself overwhelmed, try these natural remedies:

1. Essential Oils: Using essential oils such as lemon, orange, clove, peppermint, and mint around the home will deter most bugs as they are turned off by strong odors.(apartmenttherapy.com)
2. Organic Ant Control. Spray ants with vinegar water. The low pH kills them without
   
   damaging most furniture. This is a great way to clean surfaces while you’re at it.
3. Silverfish. Aromatic spices like sage, bay leaves and cloves are easy repellents for silverfish, because of their strong smells. You can put these spices inside porous sachets and use hooks to attach them inside your closets or behind your washing machine. You may also fill some decorative baskets with these sachets and lay these baskets near your baseboards.
4. Rodents. Peppermint and Peppermint Oil. In just about every home remedy circle, you will hear that mice cannot stand the scent of peppermint or peppermint oil. Soak a cotton ball in the oil of peppermint and place it at a suspected entryway.
5. Remove Food Supply. These pests are here for your crumbs and left

We hope you try out these natural home remedies for the pests in your home. If you still need help call us, and we will come over and help you. We will help you clear a path for maintenance repairs and pest control. We will throw away your urine/feces/whatever infested stuff and deep clean and sanitize your home for you. We will wash the fruit fly droppings of your walls and scrub your kitchen and bathroom clear of silverfish. That's how we roll. No judgement. It's time you start living a little better Dear Collectors, try starting with clearing your home of unwanted pests. 

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Collector Care Tips:4.5 Tips on Hoarding and Backsliding (and how to maintain a clutter free home)

Greetings Collectors! If you have ever read any of Judith Kolberg's books on hoarding disorder and chronic disorganization, than you know that backsliding is a normal part of the process.
You have spent the majority of your life living a certain way, and now you are forced to develop new habits in order to succeed in an organized environment. It's tough. Some call it brutal.

Below are 4.5 tips to help you succeed after the organizing process:

1. Focus on the present. Maintain your space. If you are not used to picking up, maintaining a clutter free counter top is tricky. This is not the time to fine tune, this is the time to maintain.
2. Where does this stuff GO? Make sure you develop a plan for after your cleanup to ensure success. Have your organizer show you where everything is, and don't be afraid to ask!
3. Don't get held up on perfection. Just because you don't know where exactly something goes right that second, don't give up. Don't let it pile up. Don't allow yourself to procrastinate and blame others or the world for not knowing where it goes. Call your organizer and ask.
4. Do your homework. If your organizer left you with 3 boxes of paperwork to sort a month, do it. A good organizer will check in with you and offer maintenance in between.
5. Hire help! Your home is presentable now, call an insured and bonded cleaning service to

Just remember Collectors, it's normal to backslide and feel overwhelmed even AFTER you have been organized. Set yourself up for success by finding an organizer who offers maintenance and by asking for outside help.

Collector Care Professional Organizers specialize in hoarding disorder, chronic disorganization, and maintenance plans. We offer FREE estimates in and around Northern California. 

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Random Rant On Plastic Bins - from a Hoarding Specialist's Prospective

Howdy Collectors! It's time to corral up all of your plastic bins. They could be clear, many of them are a solid color and some of them have patterns.

The one thing I will tell ya, is they all have DIFFERENT SIZED lids! What is up with that??? Why are lids not UNIVERSAL?? Lids should not be PROPRIETARY! How am I supposed to be efficient while searching through lids for that perfect fit?

Much love to our #hoarding and #ocd clients who know exactly which lids goes to what with the quickest glance.